Keys to Handle Anger in more effective way.. be mindful of your triggers
1) Don't be attached
Don't equate your ideas and opinions with your self worth. Think of your ideas as a book.
If you don't like my ideas (book) then you are not disagreeing with the essence of who I am...just with my ideas (book).
You are NOT your ideas.
2) Don't take things personally
Don't assume it is directed at you. Don't take it or make it personal.
It's not about you...it's about them and their experience at that time. (Are they hungry, tired, stressed? Those increase agitation.)
3) Let things go
Let go of needing things to go your way.
Don't use absolutes like never..always...
if you catch yourself using them, stop. Extreme words drive extreme feelings.
We have very few needs; the rest are "wants"
4) Be mindful of your body (Are you hungry, tired, stressed? Those increase agitation.
Don't let your mind trick you into thinking "I feel agitated, so I must be upset..."
Have a snack, take a nap, relax. then discuss it.
5) Learn how to articulate what you’re feeling
The practice of accurately naming emotions you are feeling helps you control those emotions.
